The law of karma dictates that we are conscious choice makers. Emotions are spontaneous impulses, no doubt, but what we do with that emotion is in our hands. That is why it is possible to bloom wherever one is planted.
Love is a decision. When in doubt, always choose the loving thing.
(This entry is inspired by my Twinstah Winna A., who on her 80th birthday will be honored for being a loving human being, more than anything else.)